Cocky Funny Concept: Dating After Separation
This article is from the weekly newsletter sent out to men just like you, that want to have more success with women. Read on:
Hello,
I've recently separated after 13 years of marriage and was pretty nervous about the dating scene.
I was immediately thinking of all the wussy stuff you're "supposed" to do on a first date and to attract a woman.
By chance, I got on your mailing list, and you answered the questions I had at the perfect time.
I realized that I need to do the same thing I've been doing with women for the past 13 years--tease them and be funny.
I was never interested in dating my female friends, and I treated them as buddies, and they always chatted and danced with me at parties and told my wife she was lucky to have a guy like me.
Thanks to you, I know that I can keep being my cocky and funny self and I have a better chance of meeting women than by fawning over them.
The preliminary flirting and meeting I've done so far has been good
practice for me--I've gotten a few numbers, but more important, have
been learning from my mistakes when I don't get one, and I'm going to
get your ebook to learn even more so the mistakes become less frequent.
I do have a question though.
I have been skimming the online dating sites, and I find that over 90% of the women's profiles say they're looking for a nice guy who will spend romantic evenings with them and be caring and attentive and all the "wussy" stuff you decry.
What gives?
Does it make a difference that the online women are looking for
long-term relationships and want something more stable, or are they
fooling themselves and asking for something they're really not attracted
to but think they should be?
Thanks again for you help!
You saved me from the Sahara Desert of Dating.
Richard D.
Reply:
Yes! You've asked one of my favorite questions of all time...
You're basically asking "Why is it that women all say that they want a guy who acts like a WUSSY?".
And more importantly, why is it that women actually RESPOND to something totally different?
Here it is in a nutshell:
We humans have NO IDEA what we REALLY want.
We THINK that we know what we want, but we don't.
We come into this world pre-programmed with all kinds of bizarre drives and desires... but many of them are so strange that our cultures and religions have made these natural drives "wrong".
Now, when you have a desire for something that is "wrong", what are you going to do? You can't exactly run around saying "I want the thing that everyone thinks is wrong".
Of course not.
You'd be put in a looney bin and forced to take all kinds of medication. Either that or you'd be a rock star.
Whatever.
Look... I spent MANY YEARS of my life trying to get women to like me by kissing up to them, being "nice", buying them thoughtful gifts, taking them nice places, and generally being a complete WUSSBAG.
Did it work?
Not so well.
Or course, I just figured that the reason that it wasn't working so well was because I wasn't good-looking or rich enough.
Only after spending a lot of time learning from guys who were "naturally" good with women did I begin to see what was REALLY going on.
The fact is that if you ask most women what they want in a man, they'll tell you that they want a "nice guy".
They want someone who is "A good communicator".
They want someone who is kind, thoughtful, and generous.
I have a theory about this.
It's a dangerous idea, though.
I think that most women say that they want a nice, ass-kissing, Wussy guy because...
...sit down for this...
THEY CAN'T FIND ANY REAL MEN IN THE WORLD, SO THEY DECIDE THAT THEY'RE GOING TO HAVE TO SETTLE FOR "NICE".
So stop paying attention to all this stuff that women SAY that they want, and start doing the things I'm teaching you and getting RESULTS. Thanks for your email. Good stuff.
For the review of the "Big Picture" of being cocky and funny, read Double Your Dating" here online, right now.
For the complete bigger picture, read and watch the DVD program "Cocky and Funny" here.